LIFE TAUGHT ONE EXPERIENCE AT A TIME : why homeschooling might be the best way for our children to learn and not a regular school
As a parent, what’s
your biggest fear? Mine is “Am I preparing my son properly to live a good life
on his own without me?” “Have I been equipping him with the tools he needs in
life should I suddenly fall short in life expectancy?”
We might have other ways
of saying it but I feel this is the most crucial element of parenthood – that
we have the ability to pave the way for our children to live a good life on
their own.
A road reconstruction that lead me to take an alternate
route to work somehow made me see a signage that induced a degree of paradigm
shift for me and would later dictate all my actions the entire day.
The sign read “Homeschool Studio” and in my natural
curiosity, a Google search led me to a Facebook page and later on to a website
for a homeschooling provider.
After a few more Google searches, some insightful
conversations with former office colleagues and an article about a family in La
Union with home-schooled children – I found myself suddenly writing a bucket list of things to teach my
little boy Izel. Number one on my list is to teach him how to cook rice and
guess what – I’ve just ticked that off today! ☺
(This was the best picture I got since he was too eager to finish this task and could not be bothered with any more pictures! haha)
When we arrived home from work (it should be mentioned that my son has been staying in my office every
afternoon on weekdays for lack of a reliable house help), I called Izel and
told him I would teach him how to cook rice and amazingly, he responded very
well and was really open to following me around.
I started off by showing him where the rice cooker was and
how to take out the leftover rice properly so it does not go to waste. We then
proceeded to the sink so I could teach him how to wash the container, he washed
the lid and I washed the bottom – his little hands looked awkward holding the sponge but he was serious in actually learning it. I then led him
to where our rice was stocked, showed him how to measure. He got to try out
measuring 2 cups on his own with most of them sticking to his hands! He washed
the rice himself and we strained the water together with his hands under my
hands should grains of rice fall off while draining. He added the water and
there was a bit of a raucous because he would only fill the container half full
but fortunately got it the third time. (We
like our rice a bit on the wet and soft side so we double the water ergo he had
to add 6 cups of water to 3 cups of rice.) He then learned how to wipe the
metal pot and relearned it because the pot was still wet, posed for a quick
picture and finally learned how to plug the cord to the electrical socket
making sure he had his slippers on for anti-electrocution. (If there is ever a term, that is!)
It seemed like it took such a long time to accomplish an
easy task that but it was well worth it! The whole time, his response was pure
delight and total openness. Once I broke the barrier of me teaching him such a
simple task, everything just felt totally natural afterwards.
I then showed him how to use the washing machine and shared
a neat trick I also just learned today about keeping socks in pairs during
machine washing by tying them with a rubber band. Cool huh!? No more encore of
the movie “The Search for the Missing Sock”!
After we realized we needed more rubber bands, we brought some from
a nearby sari-sari store. (Normally I
would insist that he stays home for fear of a meltdown at the store but this
time I thought it was a teaching opportunity and true enough it was!)
Although we got what we needed, we ended up going back to the store because he
wanted to buy one of those mini surprise eggs and we hadn’t brought enough
money to pay for it. On our second trip back, I asked him to lead the way to
reinforce his already excellent grasp on directions and his exceptional memory.
Even if he’d gone to a place only once, he had this uncanny knack at pointing
these places out every time we come back or just pass by – something I know he didn’t get from me as I
am not good with directions at all! Haha
During this whole experience, while we were both open to
teaching and learning from each other, I also instinctively saw a lot of
teaching opportunities! In just one night, I ended up teaching him geography
while eating dinner with the use
of a world map and a Philippine map that I bought at school opening and stashed
somewhere, reviewed for the next day’s exam and answered exercises on his
workbook with the help of my alternate character, Sonic
(Sonic is his small action figure who
shoots marbles from his tummy and is eager for Izel to teach him how to read), taught him Math by counting the
mangoes we had on our dining table and reviewed the use of shortest and longest
using his Legos and toy swords. What’s even more exciting and amazing is that
even after a restroom break, he insisted on going back to our activity and
answering a few more practical exercises!
It was a very special night that was full of bonding,
connection, learning and laughter – a night that I intend to immortalize by
writing this piece and a night I believe is a start of so many more similar
nights!
So what am I really getting at? I’m seriously considering
homeschooling now. Not just because of my previous research but most especially
because of how I felt when I taught him the seemingly simple and mundane things
and seeing the glitter in his eyes, his thirst for more knowledge and his
openness to receive it from me. Of course, we will have our off-days when we
might lose our patience but it will be part of the learning process, because
after all we are only human!
So why am I considering the idea of possibly depriving my
son of a “normal” development in a regular school? Because school kills
creativity and puts you in a mold destined to work only for people who want to
remain within a conventional system. (I
might get frowned upon or even get ostracized for this but nah, different strokes for different
folks, right?)
I went to a very good school by the way, and not to
discredit the system but I personally didn’t enjoy school quite that much. The one thing I did
enjoy was spending much of my time in the library buried under Psychology books
and other reading materials – I have always loved to read and I was curious about
how the mind worked even before.
I was thankfully endowed with good genes and I knew I was
smart and had potential but I got typecast as one of the underachievers
admittedly due to my own (wrong)
doing. I also didn’t fit the bill for
normal achievers – I was curious to a fault in that I asked a lot of questions
to the point of looking like I questioned authority even when I just genuinely
wanted to know why. I was quite rebellious too and had a different way of doing
things. Once I was typecast as such, it was a trap that was hard to get out of.
One unforgettable and maybe even traumatic experience
was getting questioned about an article I wrote for a school project that got
published in the newspaper. It must be such a great piece that it was hard to
give me credit for it! And I must be too good of a writer yet I unbelievably don’t seem like one? Whatever the case was, it was a sad fate to be in.
(I've also become a victim of bullying at one point in my high school life and up to now, I still remain baffled as to why I got called such a horrendous nickname!)
(I've also become a victim of bullying at one point in my high school life and up to now, I still remain baffled as to why I got called such a horrendous nickname!)
If you’re stuck with a teacher’s typecast, whether positive
or negative and more so with the latter, you’re headed for doom in our “normal”
mainstream educational system. It is a vicious cycle that you’re bound to take
with you wherever you go! This is a flaw in the system that is hard to fix – at
least not in my lifetime it seems – and I intend not to put my son in that
situation and instead empower him to achieve his full potential regardless of
what preconceived notions others have of him.
I want him to experience life and see success as not just the
number of medals or ribbons hanging on a wall because in reality, success is not
measured that way. I want him to feel confident about himself and be
comfortable in his uniqueness and his own abilities - - and to feel that being
different is ok! That he does not have to fit into a mold that society forces
him into. I want him to learn life the way it should be learnt and lived. And if
that means not confining him within the walls of a typical classroom then so be
it - because the world is so much bigger and so much better when fully
experienced.
So, am I preparing my son for a good life? If I were asked
that question yesterday, I would have answered with hesitation, “Am I?”
But ask me now and I’ll say, “Yes. Yes I am - and I’m doing
that one full experience at a time!”
How about you, are you preparing your
child for a good life without you?
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nmed 08/02/17
P.S. A shoutout to my wonderful friend Gab for the helpful edits and insights. Ice cream on me soon! ;)
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